Have you ever felt that despite your job title, your achievements and successes you just don’t fit in or you feel like you don’t deserve the success you have? You might be suffering from imposter syndrome, in this blog we will take a closer look at what imposter syndrome is and how to combat it.
Imposter Syndrome is also known as ‘perceived fraudulence’ and to the sufferer, feels like they got lucky with their job, their awards, their qualifications and their experience. It can be described as a false sense of self and is the difference to how you perceive yourself to the way others perceive you.
Imposter syndrome feeds on any niggle of self-doubt and is the little voice which holds you back and chips away at your confidence. Although imposter syndrome isn’t a recognised mental health condition in itself, it can thrive with existing conditions you might be suffering from including depression or anxiety and in extreme cases, even contribute to them over time.
If you suffer with imposter syndrome, your self-talk might look similar to this:
“I’m not good/smart/confident enough”
“I don’t deserve to be here”
“I’m a fraud waiting to be discovered”
“Someone else should have got this award”
The negative flip side to imposter syndrome is that it can cause you to unnecessarily work a lot harder to compensate for your own perceived lack of competency which can lead to impossibly high standards and perfectionism; this might sound great but is the quickest route to severe stress and burnout. Another negative is allowing people to take advantage or not setting healthy boundaries as you feel you ‘owe’ people due to your own perceived lack of competence.
According to Dr Valerie Young, there are 5 types of imposter syndrome, these are:
1 The Perfectionist
2 The Natural Genius
3 The Rugged Individualist
4 The Expert
5 The Superhero
If you would like to find out more about the different types and learn some active ways to tackle them, download our free resource here.
The good news is, however bad your case of imposter syndrome feels to you, there are steps you can take to begin to combat it and put yourself back on the path to a more confident and fulfilled working life.
Recognising that you are suffering with imposter syndrome is a biggie. This allows you to replace negative self-talk with a more healthy and balanced internal dialogue.
No one else has achieved your successes, they are yours and a result of your own competence, experience and hard work. No-one can take that away from you, not even your ‘imposter voice’. Write this down!
Joining a motivational group of people headed in the same direction as you can really help you to see that everyone is in the same boat, not everyone is perfect and that there are people out there just like you.
Sharing your feelings with a trusted friend, family member or colleague can help you to put things in perspective and look at your successes and achievements in a different way. They will often correct the way you see yourself with more kindness!
Perhaps the most important one on this list is practising self-compassion. We all have failures, setbacks and room for growth and allowing yourself these without beating yourself up is all part of a compassionate way of perceiving yourself. Listen to your negative self-talk, would you talk to a loved one this way who is in the same situation? Be kinder to yourself.
We hope you enjoyed our blog. We all have days we aren’t feeling good enough, smart enough or competent enough but remember that this doesn’t define you or take away your achievements. We have created a free resource containing the five types of imposter syndrome and some top tips to help eliminate it, you can download it for free here.